You were someone before they needed you — and that woman still matters.
They told you motherhood would be beautiful.
And it is.
But they didn’t tell you how easily you’d disappear inside it.
How the meals, the meltdowns, the mental lists… would slowly drown out your own voice.
How you’d miss yourself — and then feel guilty for it.
How you’d crave a moment alone, and then ache with love when you got one.
This is the part no one talks about:
The identity shift that shakes you from the inside out.
You Are Not the Only One Asking: “Where Did I Go?”
You are not ungrateful.
You are not failing.
You are not alone.
You are in a season of becoming — one that asks more of you than anything ever has… and often gives back in love, but not always in rest.
Motherhood Doesn’t Ask You to Be Everything — That’s Just What We Were Taught
Somewhere along the way, “being a good mom” became synonymous with self-sacrifice.
But here’s the truth no one says out loud:
You can love your children deeply and still need yourself fiercely.
How to Begin Finding Yourself Again
1. Stop waiting for permission to matter
You are allowed to have needs. Even if no one’s asking what they are.
2. Reclaim 15 minutes at a time
You don’t need a week-long retreat. You need 15 minutes where you aren’t the default responder. Use it to breathe, journal, shower like it’s a ceremony.
3. Speak up — even if your voice shakes
It’s okay to say, “I need help.”
It’s okay to say, “I can’t keep doing it all.”
Your truth is not a burden. It’s a doorway back to yourself.
4. Build a relationship with yourself again
Ask yourself questions no one’s asked in a while:
What lights me up?
What drains me?
What do I miss about me?
Let This Be the Start of Your Return
You were someone before they needed you.
And that woman still matters.
She’s not gone.
She’s just buried under layers of service, silence, and survival.
But she’s still there — waiting to be remembered, not resented.
And If You Want Support — You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
That’s why I created The Sacred Start — a coaching space for new moms who want to feel seen again.