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Articles by Jolandi Jordaan Kuhn, Betrayal Recovery Coach, Educator & Author. Coaching perspectives and evidence-informed education, with sources and limits explained where relevant.
Should I Delete Our Photos After an Affair?
A photograph from a happy day can become difficult to look at after discovering betrayal….
My Family Says I Should Stay After Cheating. What Can I Say?
You told someone because you needed support. Now you feel pressured to save the relationship….
Why Is My Partner Acting Normal After Cheating?
They are discussing dinner while you are questioning the relationship. Everyday routines can continue, but…
Should I Contact the Affair Partner?
Before pressing send, consider the answer you are hoping for, what contact might involve and…
My Partner Says They Can’t Remember the Affair. What Can I Ask?
“I don’t remember” can leave you with more questions. Separate essential facts from guesses, ask…
Can I Change My Mind About Staying After Cheating?
You agreed to try staying after cheating, but now you feel differently. Consider what has…
What Does a Meaningful Apology After Cheating Sound Like?
What makes an apology after cheating meaningful? Listen for clear responsibility, recognition of the harm…
Do I Need to Know Every Detail of the Affair?
Unsure which details of the affair to ask for? Separate facts you need to make…
Can We Rebuild Trust While Living Apart After Betrayal?
Living apart after betrayal can raise difficult questions. Explore clear agreements, communication boundaries and ways…
My Partner Is Making Changes. Why Do I Still Feel Unsettled?
Your partner may be making changes after cheating while you still feel uncertain. Learn how…
Do I Have to Forgive My Partner After Cheating?
Feeling pushed to forgive after infidelity? Separate forgiveness from trust, reconciliation and the decision to…
How to Prepare for Your First Betrayal Coaching Session
Preparing for your first betrayal coaching session? Bring your questions, clarify what you need and…
Do I Have to Have Sex With My Partner After They Cheated?
You do not owe sex after cheating to prove forgiveness or save a relationship. Explore…
Is It Okay to Have a Good Day After Betrayal?
Having a good day after betrayal can bring unexpected guilt. Make room for moments of…
My Partner Won’t Talk About the Affair. What Can I Do?
When your partner won’t talk about the affair, explore the difference between a pause and…
Can I Ask for Space After My Partner Cheated?
Need space after cheating but unsure what to say? Explore practical boundaries around contact, daily…
Why Do I Feel Embarrassed After My Partner Cheated?
Feeling embarrassed after your partner cheated? Separate their choices from your worth, choose who to…
How Do I Handle Anniversaries After an Affair?
Unsure how to handle anniversaries after an affair? Consider plans, boundaries, difficult reminders and support…
Why Do I Want My Partner to Comfort Me After They Cheated?
Want comfort from the partner who cheated? Explore closeness, consent, accountability and your right to…
My Partner Deleted the Messages. What Can I Ask Now?
Your partner deleted the messages after cheating. Explore what you can ask now, uncertainty, agreed…
