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Articles by Jolandi Jordaan Kuhn, Betrayal Recovery Coach, Educator & Author. Coaching perspectives and evidence-informed education, with sources and limits explained where relevant.
My Partner Is Still in Contact With the Affair Partner. What Now?
Is your partner still in contact with the affair partner? Explore clear questions, unavoidable contact,…
How Do I Get Through Work After Finding Out My Partner Cheated?
Struggling to focus at work after discovering cheating? Find practical ways to manage the day,…
Why Do I Feel Numb After Finding Out My Partner Cheated?
Feeling numb after discovering cheating? Explore what emotional numbness can mean, ways to support yourself…
How Long Does It Take to Recover From Betrayal?
Wondering how long betrayal recovery takes? Consider your current circumstances, signs of progress and support…
Why Am I So Angry After My Partner Cheated?
Angry after your partner cheated? Explore what you want to express, how to pause a…
My Partner Says It Was Just an Emotional Affair. Why Does It Hurt So Much?
Hurt by an emotional affair, even if nothing physical happened? Explore secrecy, broken trust and…
Should I Tell Family and Friends My Partner Cheated?
Unsure who to tell about an affair? Consider privacy, practical support and your right to…
My Partner Blames Me for Cheating. Is It My Fault?
When a partner blames you for cheating, it can leave you questioning yourself. Separate relationship…
What Questions Should I Ask After My Partner Cheated?
Not sure what to ask after discovering cheating? Start with questions about current contact, honesty…
Why Does Everything Remind Me of the Affair?
The reminder can arrive in an ordinary moment A song starts in a shop. Someone…
Why Do I Miss Someone Who Cheated on Me?
You can miss them and still be hurt Perhaps something funny happened today, and they…
I Can’t Sleep After Finding Out My Partner Cheated
It is 3 am, and the questions are still there The house is quiet. You…
Can I Stay With Someone Who Cheated Without Losing Myself?
Considering staying after infidelity? Reflect on accountability, boundaries, support and your freedom to choose without…
My Partner Says It Was “Just Porn”. Why Does It Hurt So Much?
Hurt by secret pornography use? Explore the role of secrecy, broken agreements and relationship boundaries…
Why Do I Keep Checking My Partner’s Phone After Betrayal?
Keep checking your partner’s phone after betrayal? Explore the search for certainty, agreed transparency and…
My Partner Says I Should Be Over the Affair. What Can I Say?
An apology does not settle every question betrayal leaves behind. You can ask for a…
Comparing Yourself to the Affair Partner? How to Step Out of the Competition
You may be comparing looks, age, confidence or success. But another person’s qualities cannot explain…
What Is Trickle Truth After Cheating? When the Story Keeps Changing
You thought you finally knew what happened. Then another detail changed. How do you find…
Skin Problems After Betrayal: When Stress May Be Part of the Picture
It can feel like one more thing you did not choose You are already dealing…
UTIs and Yeast Infections During Relationship Stress: What We Know
The timing can feel impossible to ignore If urinary or vaginal symptoms appeared during a…
