How to do the inner work while raising tiny humans who need everything from you.
Can I be honest?
Some days I wonder if I’m doing any of it right.
I’m trying to heal.
Trying to break patterns I didn’t even know were there until I had kids.
Trying to respond, not react.
Trying to speak gently when my nervous system is screaming.
All while making snacks, wiping bums, and folding the fifth load of washing.
Healing is already hard.
But healing while mothering?
That’s another level of sacred work.
Here’s What No One Tells You:
Healing doesn’t happen after motherhood.
It happens in the middle of it.
In the pause before you yell.
In the repair after you do.
In the quiet moment in the car when you choose to breathe instead of blame.
And yes — it’s messy.
But it’s also powerful.
Because your children aren’t learning perfection.
They’re learning honesty.
They’re watching what it looks like to return to yourself, even when it’s hard.
What Healing While Mothering Really Looks Like:
- Apologizing to your child when you lose your cool — and meaning it
- Noticing when you’re triggered, and choosing not to shame yourself for it
- Choosing rest, even when the house is chaos
- Reading one page of a book instead of scrolling
- Letting go of “perfect” parenting and aiming for present
Yes, It’s Hard — And It’s Worth It
You are doing two of the most courageous things at the same time:
Raising humans
And raising yourself.
That’s not failure. That’s legacy.
Every time you choose awareness over autopilot, you’re breaking a chain.
Every time you speak your needs, you’re teaching your children how to speak theirs.
Every time you show yourself compassion, you’re rewriting the script they’ll one day read from.
You Don’t Have to Get It Perfect to Be Powerful
Some days will be chaotic.
Some days, healing will look like brushing your teeth and not yelling before 9 a.m.
Some days, it will look like crying in the bathroom.
That’s still healing.
That’s still enough.
You’re showing your kids that being human is safe.
That repair is sacred.
That growth is possible — even when it’s slow.
If You’re In the Middle of It, This Is Your Reminder:
You can be a masterpiece and a work in progress at the same time.
You can be tired and intentional.
Triggered and growing.
Soft and fierce.
You don’t have to wait until your kids are older to begin again.
You can start today.
Right here.
With what you have.
And I’d be honored to walk beside you.